I have always been very into astrology and the reason for that is because I've always wanted to understand myself and felt a need to "figure myself out". Why am I acting like I do in different scenarios? Why do I struggle with this and that while being so good at this and that? Everyone can say what they want about astrology but there is one thing it's taught me and that is: You can't argue with faith. And by faith, I don't mean what's going to happen because of course, we all affect our own path. I mean what has happened and most importantly, what you've been given. You have your personality traits and those are yours and yours alone. You can and should always work on your "bad sides" to some degree but you must accept who you are and see your strengths and weaknesses in order to be the best version of yourself.
If there is something I am certain off, it's that things never go well when you're trying to be something you're not. When you're forcing another personality onto yourself because you think that's better or more fun. I've done this a lot, and at times I've basically created a persona for myself. It may seem like a good idea in the beginning because it really gets you out of your comfort zone but at one point it becomes very destructive. Because by trying to be someone you're not, you're basically telling yourself that you're not good enough as you are. There is nothing more harmful to your soul than that. I'm not saying you shouldn't challenge yourself and get out of your comfort zone. Of course, you should do that, every single day if possible. But do it with the right intentions. Do it with the goal of developing YOUR personality and YOUR soul, not someone else's.
I think the only way to be truly happy is to embrace all that is you. In order to do so, you need to really get to know yourself. First, you must find your strengths and embrace the shit outta them. Then, take an honest look at your weaknesses. There are so many things we hate about our personalities that in fact aren't so bad at all. Maybe they could even be strengths if used right. Let me give you an example: I have a really high sensitivity to other people's moods. If I'm listening to a friend talking about her problems or comforting someone who is sad, I feel drained afterwards. If I watch a sad movie (Who am I kidding, even a really emotional episode of Keeping up with the Kardashians) I cry. I get so affected by other's emotions that I physically feel it in my own body. This is something I often hate about myself and I would think "Why can't I just be more objective and not get so soaked in?". But why should I wanna change this amazing ability I have to sense peoples feelings? It's a total superpower to have. I makes me caring and sympathetic towards people. It helps me sense the vibe of other people so I'm prepared for what's coming. I can still work on not letting myself get so affected by others emotions so that it drains me but there's a huge difference between learning to master your superpowers, rather than hating them and wishing you were different.
The lesson here is to work with what you've been given, not against it. It's just like that Einstein quote: "Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, It will live its whole life believing that It is stupid". You are totally unique and that should be celebrated. There is literally no one in the universe that is just like you, just let that fact soak in. I really believe that when we learn to embrace our qualities and let our personalities truly blossom, we can achieve great things. The sad thing is not many people actually do this. So many of us are constantly wishing we were different or feeling bad about ourselves for the way we're wired. We need to stop that shit and cherish our unique qualities. "No one is you and that is your power". (Ps. not even gonna apologize for the quote-dropping so just deal with it).